Archive for May, 2010


As a former student of mine, Matt Campbell, posted on his Facebook page today, Americans seem to have little clue of the significance of Memorial Day.  It began in 1868 to honor those who died in the American Civil War by placing flowers on their graves. After the bloodshed of World War I, all soldiers who died in the line of duty were honored.  As Matt notes, most people see Memorial Day as the start of summer and a nice three-day weekend, and very few of us “take the time to remember our fallen soldiers.”

The Denver Post carried an article today about the pain of parents who have lost sons and daughters to war.  Twenty-four year old Staff Sgt. Jacob Frazier of the Illinois National Guard, was killed in Afghanistan in 2003.  “Don’t ever use the word ‘closure’ with me,” his father Jim Frazier said. “I once threw a reporter out who used that word. It’s simply a hole in your heart that is always there . . . and you learn to live with it.” On Memorial Day in 2003, just two months after burying his son, Mr. Frazier agreed to go on a parade float through Chicago. He found the disconnect between his grief and the happy, smiling crowds excruciating.

Another parent, Sandra Miller, mother of Army Pvt. De Wayne White, 27, who died in Iraq in 2007, is “baffled that so many Americans do not recognize or even think about sacrifice, especially on Memorial Day.” “It’s not about having a barbecue. It’s a day for remembering . . . . And what’s up with all the sales?  If one TV channel could just put up the photos of all the fallen for just one day, that would make a huge difference.”   Mr. Frazier is quoted as saying that what we can do is ask family members about their son, daughter, husband or wife.   “The kindest thing you can do is just say, ‘Tell me about him,’ because if you don’t talk, you get sick.”

The words of these bereaved parents gave me an idea.  What if instead of parades, we had, in every single town across this country, a public role call of all the service men and women from that town who have died in war- not just our current ones but all our wars– from the Revolution, to the War of 1812 to the Civil War to the Spanish-American, World War I, World War II, Korea, Vietnam, the Gulf War. And all of us took turns reading the names.  And all of us were present to hear the names, to acknowledge that life and loss. We need to take the losses of our wars personally.  Because even if no one in our family ever died in the line of duty, even if we opposed each and every one of these wars, the fallen soldiers died in our names.    And until we remember the cost of war, we have no chance of realizing how we allow the suffering of war to continue.

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Please consider going to the movies on the evening on Tuesday, May 18th to show support for military families who have lost loved ones in Iraq or Afghanistan.   On Tuesday, May 18 at 8:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. CT / 6:00 p.m. MT / 8:00 p.m. PT (tape delayed) in select movie theaters nationwide, audiences will be taken on an inspiring and compelling journey to a picturesque Rocky Mountain camp where 25 boys gather for a week of camp to honor the memories of their fathers who made the ultimate sacrifice while serving our country in Iraq and Afghanistan. Get your group together to hear their stories, be inspired and take action!

To help you share information about this touching, one night in-theater tribute to our Military and their families with your community, we have created tools such as e-cards, social media badges, a trailer, flyer and online banners for you to use which you may find on the event website,

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This website has connected me with people all over the country who dedicate themselves to helping veterans and their families heal from war’s traumas. Veterans Heart Georgia (VHG), based in Atlanta, is among the pioneers creating programs and assembling resources.  I envy Atlantans for being able to participate in VHG’s monthly Listening Circles where people speak their pain and struggles and find support and understanding.  Community is invaluable to healing PTSD.

One of VHG’s programs is the Children and Families of Veterans Initiative. As part of that VHG is partnering with the Counseling Certificate Program at Mercer University to gather data for a research proposal that seeks to understand intergenerational trauma.

VHG’s first step in gathering data for a pilot study is creating a blog. From the stories they can bring together from the blog, they will look at common threads and see how frequently those commonalities (qualitative data) occur.  Then they will form small focus groups (via conference calls, probably), followed by a smaller number of interviews. This data will form the basis for a proposal to study the prevalence of negative effects of war on adult children and families, as well as to develop an “intervention” or method to help end people’s suffering.

If you go to VHG’s website,, you will see the blog on the far right of the navigation bar.  Click on that and then register so you can leave your story.  This will increase the chances that families of veterans, as well as the veterans themselves, will have resources available to them for healing.

You can create a nickname when you register that will keep you anonymous, our use your own name.

Let us all help to create a groundswell of awareness and healing.

The Multigenerational Ripple of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

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مبلمان اداری صندلی مدیریتی صندلی اداری میز اداری وبلاگدهی فروشگاه اینترنتی گن لاغری شکم بند لاغری تبلیغات کلیکی آموزش زبان انگلیسی پاراگلایدر ساخت وبلاگ بوی دهان بوی بد دهان